Positive affirmations — repeat after me

I can chant OM with the best of them. SHANTI SHANTI SHANTI? Not a problem. Repeating positive affirmations out loud  — do we really have to do this?

Earlier this week, I attended a yoga class in a pretty little greenhouse nestled behind Reesor’s Farm in Markham. Kind Yoga by Heart isn’t my regular studio. This week, my step-daughter has been attending horse riding camp about an hour north of the city. To avoid unnecessary driving, I’ve been spending the hours between drop-off and pick-up at a nearby friend’s. She recommended that I attend her studio, so off I went.

Tina, our instructor, was warm and lovely. My fellow students, down to earth. The view from upward dog, blissful. And then there was the class itself. As soon as Tina said we were starting in savasana, I thought, this is my kind of class. She eased us in beautifully and when we finally began to flow, 100% of me was there. As they say in yoga speak, I had ‘arrived on my mat.’

Yoga Studio

Declaring positive affirmations at Kind Yoga by Heart, Markham, Ontario

Then the positive affirmations began.

‘Crap. We’re going there,’ I thought, rolling my eyes (with my eyelids shut so that the instructor couldn’t see me). Confidence met arrogance as I dismissed the possibility of this exercise actually doing me a service.

I am responsible for my happiness. Fine. I’m all over that. One, two, three. Done.

I am beautiful. I get it. You mean inside as well as out. Yeah, yeah. I knew that already but I’ll say it anyway.

I am amazing. Well, I wouldn’t say amaz… Okay, we’re all amazing in our own way. I get why you threw that one in.

I am strong and courageous. Hell, yes. I am woman. Hear me roar.

I go with the flow and I trust that everything is working out for me. The first phrase a struggle. The second phrase a breeze.

And then … the mother of all affirmations: I love and approve of myself. I was humbled. Suddenly I understood why I was participating in this exercise.

I thought I’d been feeling pretty good about myself lately, but the negative self-talk that followed each repetition suggested otherwise. Yes, I love and approve of myself, except … My brain was bombarded with thoughts of what I could and should be doing ‘better.’ You should have way more followers on your Facebook page by now. You shouldn’t have eaten a bagel for breakfast two days in a row. I can’t believe you asked that client such a stupid question. Blah, blah, blah.

Reality check.

Just when I thought I was cruising along in life, Tina helped me realize that negativity is running its mouth off in the background. And to think this negativity isn’t seeping its way into my day-to-day productivity and happiness, well, that’s just preposterous. Sometimes you just need to STOP. RIGHT. THERE. Identify the barriers before you, and knock them down. Affirmations help you do that.

What’s holding you back right now? Where is there room for you to grow? Say these words out loud. Now repeat until you can say them with conviction:

I love and approve of myself.

I love and approve of myself.

I love and approve of myself.

Want more? Here are 35 affirmations that Dr. Carmen Harra swears will change your life.

Namaste x

By | 2017-08-18T22:20:10+00:00 August 11th, 2017|16 Comments

16 Comments

  1. Susan Ward August 11, 2017 at 2:14 pm - Reply

    A very relatable reminder that we all must practice this every day. It is remarkably hard to legitimately embrace this phrase without something from blatant doubt or to subconscious subtle undertones of cynicism.

    Silencing the negative self-talk that comes so naturally – I believe particularly for women – is challenging. This makes me pause and imagine how doubly hard for our teens without the maturity and life experience to objectively separate themselves from the overt and subconscious influence of a plethora of external sources of unrealistic expectations and judgement served to them in abundance every day. So many do not have the ability or awareness of how important it is to turn it off and consciously take stock of and acknowledge their uniqueness and true worth.

    Namaste!
    There IS a Divine spark within each of us.
    Thank you for your honesty and insight.

    • THE WORDY MOM August 11, 2017 at 2:31 pm - Reply

      And thanks for your insight, Susan. So true what you say about teens. And younger, too. I saw this in action earlier today with my 10-year-old step-daughter. When I pick her up from camp this afternoon I shall ask her to repeat after me: I am amazing. (I love and approve of myself may be a little too abstract for her at this age!) Thanks for the nudge.

  2. Jess August 11, 2017 at 5:45 pm - Reply

    This is a brilliantly funny but honest account. it makes so much sense. i have a slightly different approach which is to allow my self occasional time to listen to the negative voices. I let my self feel sad angry and even jealous and resentful sometimes. I then try to figure it out slowly but surely and THEN try to build up with positive affirmations. So that I don’t feel like I’ve just buried stuff but have unwound them and let them settle down.I completely appreciate that everyone has a different way. I don’t know if that makes sense? I hope you don’t mind my stance.

    • THE WORDY MOM August 12, 2017 at 7:02 am - Reply

      Jess, I welcome your stance. Thank you. I’ll admit that I simplified my post when I suggested identifying the barrier and giving it a good kick! If I were to have elaborated, I would have gone on to say ‘sit with it, feel it, process it … and then when you’re done – give it a good kick!’ I neither believe in burying negative feelings nor have the capability to do so.Your contribution is appreciated and I hope others will read it and take note.

  3. Nicole Anderson | Camping for Women August 11, 2017 at 7:12 pm - Reply

    It’s so true that we become the result of whatever state of mind we adopt and once we are conscience of that fact, we are then able to turn that toward the goal of having a happy life. In the midst of such a chaotic, manic and busy world we all need to keep this in mind to be grateful for what we have and recognize that we are not that bad after all.

    • THE WORDY MOM August 12, 2017 at 7:00 am - Reply

      Yep. Happiness begins with self-love, which like ‘love’ is a verb, not a noun. And I guess that’s the trick. It’s not something we can just count on having. It’s something we have to keep on doing.

  4. Tina August 11, 2017 at 9:40 pm - Reply

    Beautifully written!! Thank you for sharing this with me.

    • THE WORDY MOM August 12, 2017 at 6:58 am - Reply

      Thanks, Tina. Glad you enjoyed.

  5. Kellie August 11, 2017 at 11:42 pm - Reply

    I am a big fan of self compassion, and this goes one further. I once heard that it takes several positive compliments to strike out a previous, negative comment. This is right on target with that, except for ourselves and not for others. I am definitely going to have my daughter practice some positive self talk with me this week, and during my own meditation practice, I will do the same.

    Thank you for this reminder.

    • THE WORDY MOM August 12, 2017 at 6:58 am - Reply

      You’re right, Kellie. I’ve heard that too. Especially with our children, we need to deliver x positive comments for every negative one. Can’t recall the number (anyone). I have never thought about applying that to myself though. A great observation.

  6. Angela August 14, 2017 at 1:48 pm - Reply

    I love this! Such a great way to release all the negative energy and thoughts we experience every day.

    • THE WORDY MOM August 14, 2017 at 4:36 pm - Reply

      I know. Must do it more often!

  7. Toyin August 14, 2017 at 6:26 pm - Reply

    With all the negatives flying around, having a positive mindset and affirming it is crucial to our wellbeing. Thanks for sharing! I have a similar post on my blog which I tagged positive vibes. Cheers to our positive energy 🍻

    • THE WORDY MOM August 14, 2017 at 6:29 pm - Reply

      Cheers, Toyin!

  8. Renee s August 15, 2017 at 10:07 am - Reply

    Namaste! What a great post and all too relatable. We all go through that same thought process I think, but its nice to let go and just be. <3

    • THE WORDY MOM August 15, 2017 at 10:54 am - Reply

      Thanks, Renee. Yes, I’m sure I’m not alone. Namaste!

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